DeAngelo Webster’s facebook post has been viral for a
while and it gives us a reason to ponder on the reasons behind our choice of
partners or lack of it. My DH was not 100% my type when I met him, but over the
years he is become more than 100% my type and I am happy. So what is your type,
are you with your type or not?
Mine was everything i listed in my " Don't even go there" list. But here we are, happily together!! No regrets whatsoever. Moral of the story: Sometimes God gives us what we actually need and not what we think we need.
ReplyDeleteI saw DeAngelo's post recently, and immediately a bell went off in my head. It seemed as if they had defied some natural barrier that blinds so many of us at times and keeps us from real happiness. I shared it with some of my girlfriends because we have many convos about our obsession with having a particular type. They still didnt care to hear it, but it impacted me, that i could be limiting myself for yearssss and boxing God and his options for me in BIG TIME! Im drawn to a type who most times turns out to be no good. My question is, how and when does this attraction grow? Feels impossible to see past that 'unattraction' which stalls the bonding, intimacy etc.
ReplyDeleteI believe you need to like some of the person's attributes in order to get pass the 'unattraction' phase. For some, the attraction builds with time spent. Remember the saying that there is nothing like a perfect partner, rather you mould the person to your taste. So once you see your 60,70 percent guy/girl, give it some time before making your decision.
ReplyDeleteWell,my husband isn't exactly d kinda guy i wld've chosen buh hey,i believe God knows what's best for us,he knows what we need not just what we want cos @ d end of d day i cldn't hv asked for anything berra!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby was everything I wished for in a man. But having lived together for 8yrs, I see somethings differently now. However, we are able to stay strong in our relationship because we are the best of friends despite some differences
ReplyDeleteThis "not my type' reason has kept a lot of girls single till date. Sometimes we have to look beyond and see the best in someone. To live with someone for the rest of your life, you have to look past the physical. Love with your heart and not with your eyes.
ReplyDeleteThere is no perfect partner and everyone goes on about personality. This no doubt is extremely important, though we often leave the physical entirely out of it. You're somehow seen as being superficial when you talk about the physical attributes. By all means seek some semblance of your spec and with a great personality
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