 |
| Adams and Lara Oshimole pic, 042express.com |
I received an
email from a blog visitor about women who marry older men. She is asking for
our opinions.
 |
| Musa and Caroline Danjuma pic, loveweddings |
 |
| Rasaq and Shade Okoya pic, encomium |
 |
Chukwuemeka and Bianca Ojukwu news2.onnlineNigeria
|
 |
| Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones pic, pursuitisit.com |
Marrying an
older person does not have a wrong or right to it depending on what side of the
platform you are standing on. There are many successful marriages with an older
spouse. The list is endless, in Naija we have Bianca and Ojukwu, Adams and Lara
Oshiomole, Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva, Shade and Rasaq Okoya, Caroline and Musa
Danjuma, Frances and Emmanuel Iwuanyanwu amongst others. Let us not forget Robert
and Grace Mugabe, Nelson and Graça Mandela. In the west we
have Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, Larry King and Shawn Southwick, Celine Dion and René Angélil, George and Amal Clooney, Hugh Hefner and Crystal Harris and
Ronnie Wood and Sally, The list is endless o.
We get married because of the sex,
children, love, companionship etc. but when it comes to women who marry older
men, we try to justify it with various notions. Some people would argue it is
for the money, maturity, experience, caring and understanding nature of the
older men and for women who lack the father figure in their lives. Let us not
forget women who marry older men, marry them virtually for the same reasons
people with less age gap do. However we may term it, we all marry for
different reasons it does not matter if the intended spouse is old, young or
the same age as us. The most important thing is that we love our spouse and don’t
care whatever age he is.
Age difference should not be a
defining issue in spousal choice. We may be calculating age, and “the one” will
just waka pass. Please express yourself in the comment section.
I see nothing wrong in one getting married to an older person. This is because in such cases,there's always a mutual understanding and respect,the relationship between the couple has some level of maturity and commitment.
ReplyDeleteAs long as one finds peace,love and happiness in whose ever, that's the most important thing in any relationship. I dnt think the age matters.
ReplyDeleteJust as long as there is no unfair power inbalance between both parties as a result of being too young and vibrant, or being too old, worldly and well off.
ReplyDeleteAge is just a number, love is all that matters.
ReplyDeleteLove is a beautiful thing and it defies age,religion,education. Besides age is just a number. Often times we find true love from older men and women. For me happiness and peace of mind should be top priority.
ReplyDeleteSome debates say that women that marry older are filling that need for a father figure. I myself although not yet married am naturally inclined toward older men. There is a certain stability there which younger guys fail to offer. Many women my age seek that security and therefore set their eyes on more mature guys. There is also the debate which purports that since men mature slower than women then an older man is 'just right' for a woman a certain amount of years his junior.
ReplyDeleteMost times the older the wiser but nevertheless have been in a relationship with someone my age that is very mature. He seemed like and old man trapped in a young body. Personally I won't like to date or marry someone more than 10 years older than me
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by the author.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I love maturity and wisdom in a man, so I usually go for older men. (Not as old as Ojukwu and Oshiomole o lol) between 5 -10 years older. On the other hand I have dated a young guy who was so mature and exuded so much wisdom and kindness in the way he treated me. After him I began to question my notion. It's really not about the age, it's about the intention of the parties involved. You really don't choose who you love and nobody should ever judge another person's marriage or relationship because one spouse is older. I have absolutely no problems with that as long as the parties involved are happy with their situation.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I see nothing wrong with dating/marrying an older man. HOWEVER, ladies have to be careful not to get hooked with an older man who is a control freak (speaking from experience). Trust me, you will regret your decision of settling with him. #my2kobo
ReplyDelete