Happy new
month my people. Abeg I wan ask una question, would you date or marry a “baby
daddy or mummy”?
Personally, I don’t like the term “baby daddy or mummy”, I
prefer single mum or dad. Please think well o before you answer, some people
have claimed they would never and end up doing so. Let us all bear in mind that
a child is a beautiful gift and being a single mum or dad does not make one un-dateable
or unmarriageable. Some believe dating or marrying a single mum or dad is inviting
major drama, keeping in mind that the child’s mum/dad will always be in the
picture although, there are single guys/girls out there that will bring more
drama to your life than a single dad/mum. Also,some worry about them getting back together with their ex. While some don’t mind because of the financial
consolation.Some believe that with mutual love between them, having a
child/children poses no problem. Some don’t find out they are dating one until it
is quite late.
So, would you date/marry a single dad/mum? Please share
your opinions.
I would evaluate a lot of things in the circumstances, the person's relationship with the child and the involvement of the ex. If the person is wonderful and we connect, and the circumstances surrounding the "dadhood" are not too stressful, then I would consider it. It is not a "no no" for me, but it is a "hmm, let me look again".
ReplyDeleteIt depends on the individual Love happens, that is not to ignore the drama that comes with single dads or single mum.
ReplyDeleteAs one gets older they get wiser. When I was younger I always said I will never marry a guy with kids but circumstances can make you a single dad. Now am older i understand better. What matters is your love commitment and chemistry. And respect for each other as per other people in their lives.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't rule out the idea completely but i would sure weigh all the options surrounding the circumstances. If the pros outweigh the cons, then I could give it a shot
ReplyDeleteIt also depends on what i have with this person. This is key!
ReplyDeleteIt also depends on what i have with this person. This is key!
ReplyDeleteDis decision wil b taken wit ure 2 eyes open not cos of d luv u hv 4 a guy cos love may fade. Esp wen we experience alot of infatuation & tag the feelings luv.apply caution or u would b sorry wen drama ensues.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm..... Wot a thot provoking article especially for a single gurl looking forward to getting married. Well like most folks have responded it is not a No no tin but should be done with Eyes Wide Open. Trust, Understanding and Love can propel d partnerShip on and tru every stormy weather.
ReplyDeleteEither/both man or/and woman can bring a child or children into the marriage. I believe it is called blended family! I don't have a problem with that if I love him. However, we can only be a blended family with the kids only, no exes! There has to be boundaries, that's the only way it can work
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm if i can have a baby for him them i can equally date him what matters na love
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm if i can have a baby for him them i can equally date him what matters na love
ReplyDeleteYup....ain't no thang
ReplyDeleteAnnie Chia speaks my mind on this matter! It ain't a bad idea, but some evaluation has to be done.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely but it will depend on how many babies though, lol
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